When you feel hate, grudges will come along and we must be careful of our actions. It flames up your anger and turns us bad. It is hard to avoid grudges but we can do something about it. Grudges give bad emotions and you carry it not until you’ve let go.
Happy person don’t hold grudges and wise enough to learn that grudges are for the people who can’t let go of sad things or experience. Forgiving can take away your grudges and that is the best way I know.
When we cause other peoples grudges? Be the first to humble down and ask forgiveness. It can lessen the hate and make them easily to forgive.
Avoid before it happens. We are not perfect that sometimes people don’t like what happen. By understanding, we can control our emotion well and giving considerations allow them to do the right things. Managing our emotions can handle our grudges to let go.
I don’t want to end this topic without sharing my personal experience. What can you feel when you are giving love to someone that loves you back untruly? It is like having a fake relationship that will never last. I have to know where the pains of grudges come from. The pain of letting go can heal faster than the pain of being cheated. I don’t have any benefits on my grudges. I also remember when my friend borrowed my Eraser Heads “Cutterpillow” album that was never returns. I have now in mind that when I let someone borrows my things; I assume it was already given, so that I won’t hold any grudges on them.
What did you learn?
Grudges is a rewards you get when you hate someone so much, It is up to you to received it.
You can make a difference.
You can avoid having grudges because its normal and you can make a difference when you can learn to let it go quick. You don't need grudges in your life.