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My Nanay And Tatay Taught Me How To Live And Die

 


I want to share what valuable lesson I’ve learned from my parents. They had always been a source of love and happiness that I want to cherish. Sharing this is just a way of being thankful to my Nanay and Tatay.

To make the story short, they took care of me and guide me through living. The final part was how they shown me the graceful farewell.

A guide to live

I live by quotes from my parents who said to me. “Learn what is evil and good and live the path that you’ve chosen.” Then it is my will to be what I want to be!

My father was a giver. He gives his all and sometimes he forgot the set aside for himself just to help others. My father was a kind man and I’ve learned that I must able to help myself first before I can help others.

Strong will to survive! My father had so many near death experiences. Is it amazing to get back and recover from over 10 strokes? How many times did he hold his life string to asked for another breath to come. If he only thought for himself he just let go of his breath and goodbye. I’ve learned that I must live with purpose to live long. I want to become very good in helping my family, friends and myself.

My mother was always with patient and grace. My mom had a dream of a good life for me; she was calm and had the vision that one day I can achieve it. She can easily forgive and showed me that life is meant to be happy. I’ve learned that waiting for changes is important and I will change for good from time to time. If today is not for my success then the next day might be mine. I’ve learned to forgive my self first before I understand why I should forgive others.

Strong love to remain! My mom bears all her emotions and kept by herself. All I've seen in front of her was being happy. Her love was great for she was able to hid her burdens and suffering from me. She keeps on telling the same story over and over again because she knew it was good and its really good. She stayed beside my father in good and bad times, even for better or worst. She tagged along with my brother and sister who were in need. If I am going to love, I will love like my nanay who give time and presence to make you feel good.

A farewell lessons.

Peaceful, my father died peacefully while sleeping. I know that pain is not peaceful at all and he left us with the message of HOPE, “Hold On Pain End.” He was suffering from emphysema with only one lung to support his breath. He can only see with one eye and eat with one tooth. In his case, the only way to endure pain is to die and it is so meaningless. But he is not really talking about pain. He wanted me to hold on to what makes me happy because pain is just a counter measure of happiness weather it is physical or emotional pain. I’ve learned that if it is meaningless to hold on, then learn to let go because you can still be happy with something else without pain.

My mom passed away and never gave any sign that she was about to rest forever. It was always been a normal days for my mom at Lobo, Batangas. I guess my mom live life for my father and having only with that purpose, its best for her to rest. She knew that my brother, sister and I can live on our own and it's time to go. I’ve learned to be contented to what I have and leave the rest for the world to share.

Thank you Tatay at Nanay.

Thank you Tatay for lighting up the will of fire in me, and now want to live helping my family, my friends and myself in order of priority. Thank you for showing us how to hold on our happiness and how to let go of pain.

Thank you Nanay for loving Tatay with all your heart and soul. You show us to become contented to what we had and your love for us is always abundance. I miss your hugs and smiles. I’m sure I will love the way you loved.

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  1. Jeini Relova
    Jeini Relova says:

    Oooh. This is so sad, but it so nice how they've taught you not only lessons that you will be using in school, but also lessons that you will using for the rest of your life. Some child take their parents' lessons for granted, they only appreciate it when they are already gone. What I like and love about your parents is that they taught you nice and simple rules to live by and they will forever stay with you. I know that loosing someone is inevitable and not that easy, but they surely will be forever in our hearts. Thank you for this Dlysen. Cheers and God Speed

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    • dlysen
      dlysen says:

      Hi Jedi! It is much easier to lose someone who died than someone you lose but still around. I mean ex-relationship, you can still hope for relationship to comeback even it is impossible. Move on anyway!

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